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Gis\u00e8le Pelicot\/Laurent Coust\/ABACAPRESS.COM<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

The prime contender for Dame Designate of the Year must be Gis\u00e8le Pelicot \u2013 she of the charming husband who drugged her, raped her and invited dozens of perfect strangers to do likewise. Pelicot asked for a trial in open court, and for the videos of these assaults to be shown, sending a message to other women that \u2018its not for us to have shame; it\u2019s for them.\u2019 A ‘Courage calls to courage everywhere’ moment if ever there was one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s high time that not only the extremes of sexually predatory behaviour, but also non-criminal, but insidiously destructive, instances of \u2018being unable to keep it in your pants\u2019 attracted opprobrium \u2013 from men as well as women. Let us, and especially the perpetrators, recognise this for what it is: incontinence. No one wants to be thought \u2018incontinent\u2019, with its evocation of those too young, too old or too debilitated to have control of their bladders. For them, shame does not come into it: they simply don\u2019t have the physiological wherewithal to exercise control.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But it\u2019s a term whose negative associations should be weaponised against those who do have the means to control their impulses but choose not to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This incontinence spans a wide range behaviour, starting with the incorrigible philanderer (and how forgiving a term is that?). How I have longed for the wronged wife of an MP or cabinet minister \u2018standing by\u2019 her errant husband for the obligatory TV interview to go completely off-script and declare: \u2018Frankly, I think it\u2019s pathetic the way these grown men are led around by their willies,\u2019 to the consternation of all around her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Berlusconi, Johnson, Clinton \u2013 I\u2019m sure you\u2019ll be able to think of your own examples \u2013 have all exhibited these traits. Why do we continue to entrust the good governance of nations to men who seem to have so little control over their own persons? What\u2019s more, press coverage of their misdemeanours is often salacious rather than censorious. If rich and powerful men are seen getting away with this kind of thing, it becomes aspirational rather than shameful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the other end of the spectrum we have the dismal spectacle of serial rapists like David Carrick and Al Fayed. It is perhaps not surprising that police culture turned a blind eye to such practices in its midst, but what has been truly shocking is the allegation that female doctors may have colluded with Al Fayed in \u2018vetting\u2019 his victims for STDs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But hey \u2013 if you\u2019re an incontinence lad, how about making the most of it and monetising your vice while you\u2019re at it? It\u2019s worked for Andrew Tate and turned his toxic example into a lifestyle choice that many young men can only dream of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s time for us \u2013 the media, society in general, and in particular other men \u2013 to reframe this behaviour. No more cads, bounders, rakes and rogues; no more ladies\u2019 men and ‘bit of a lad’: these men are immature, sociopathic, and lacking in even the impulse control of the average three-year-old.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Meet the incontinence lads – less impulse control than a 3-year-ol<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":10533,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_exactmetrics_skip_tracking":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_active":false,"_exactmetrics_sitenote_note":"","_exactmetrics_sitenote_category":0,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,69,309,55,56,307,54,59],"tags":[574],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10532"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=10532"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10532\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10550,"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/10532\/revisions\/10550"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/10533"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=10532"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=10532"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/damesnet.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=10532"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}